Hi,
I'm James!
I help adults build healthier relationships with themselves so they can create more fulfilling connections with others.
P.S. I have ADHD.
I help adults build healthier relationships with themselves so they can create more fulfilling connections with others—whether that’s improving communication, navigating divorce or fostering personal growth.
My Why
I was 35 years old when I was finally confronted by my choices.
Alone, in a house that wasn’t mine, I sat, mournfully contemplating my impending divorce, the decay of yet another business and the pain of being separated from my dog and 3-month-old son.
Rock, meet Bottom.
Over the following few years, I collected an ADHD diagnosis, a mountain of solicitors fees and some really un-fun PTSD symptoms.
I’ve been through a lot and I know that some of you will have been through similar things to me.
There is some amazing content out there, made by amazing creators who have all had their unfair share of difficulties.
They supported me while I was in the thick of it, and now I’m in a better place, I want to join the conversation to support those of you who need a boost.
So, why do I do what I do?
To offer you support, education and validation at some of the most challenging times in your life.
My How
“James supported me through a difficult time and taught me how to listen to my kids and myself.”
Jane W - Worcestershire
By sharing my own insights, personal stories and resources, my goal is to help you understand you’re not alone.
Life’s difficulties, mental health issues, ADHD and unhealthy relationships can make us feel isolated. In turn, this feeling of isolation can make our experience even more difficult.
I write this stuff to demonstrate that there is hope.
There are ways of helping yourself through the turmoil and there are people who want to support you.
I am one of them.
I write content that I believe to be ethical and safe for you to read.
I’ll always issue trigger warnings at the beginning of my posts, so you stay in command of what you consume.
I love to have guest writers share their insights too, so you get a range of experiences to help you feel better.
“James supported me through a difficult time and taught me how to listen to my kids and myself.”
Jane W - Worcestershire
My Future
This blog is only the start of my global campaign to help a million people feel better. I’ve got so much more to give! Audio, video and course content is all planned for the next 3 years.
Later in 2025, I’m launching a podcast to support you while you’re in the car, on the go or just doing the housework.
I was once an audio engineer, so it seems only right to put that skill to good use in my second life!
In 2026, I’m launching a YouTube channel to go into further depth on the some of topics I’ll cover.
Throughout 2026 and 2027, I’ll design and release courses to help you learn how to set boundaries, develop empathy and overcome some of those ADHD annoyances that plague our day-to-day lives.
And finally, in 2028, once I’m a fully qualified counsellor, I’ll be offering one-to-one therapy for those who want the personal touch.
It’s an exciting roadmap and I’d love you to come with me on this journey.
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